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Your Not Who You Were In Highschool

Your Not Who You Were In Highschool

This morning I watched a video of my first high school boyfriend doing stand up comedy in Germany (and fucking rocking it) which inspired me to write this post. I’d gone home after the first day of high school conplaining to mum about the lack […]

21 Day Self-Love Challenge: Seeing Ghosts

21 Day Self-Love Challenge: Seeing Ghosts

To really understand start by reading this: News Article I dreamt about craig last night, for probably the 3rd time since he died. It makes my heart ache to see him again, holding onto the image of him in my dream for a long as […]

21 Day Self-Love Challenge: Positivity. Period

21 Day Self-Love Challenge: Positivity. Period

Im going to be really real with you here. It’s hard to control emotions, already being controlled by your body. Man, periods suck.

I’ve been an absolute nightmare the past couple of days, despite ever effort to change my mood, I jump right back around to feeling moody and short tempered. Tonight I’m mixing it up, I’m hitting a yoga mat for the first time in a good 4 years and it’s safe to say I’ll probably spend the entire hour trying not to fart. At least I’ll be with the girls, there’s nothing more terrifying than a well seasons yoga class.

Edit. I did 3 silent but quite violent farts, if anyone smelt then they were far to kind to shame me.

And… Yoga was awesome, I pretty much spent the entire time trying not laugh at the thought of the whole in my friends trowsers (don’t worry she knew about, I’m not that evil) and letting giggles every time a move seemed even remotely sexual. To be honest it was nice to just do something for me, to be someone other mum and girlfriend. To just care for myself, which I get so little time for these days. We’re planning to keep going to keep going back! Its the first bit of exercise I’ve been able to do since getting I’ll I without my head exploding or actually passing outm it felt amazing to use my muscles AND I was super productive when I got home. I think in going to have to try and incorporate more yoga into my life. On an even better note my period is nearly over and I’m starting to feel myself again. If anyone any tips on how NOT to be a hormonal cow, please feel free to drop them in the comments below.

I guess the moral of this post is to remind you to LOOK AFTER YOURSELF, what ever that means for you. What ever your lacking, a healthy diet, exercise, friendship. YOU HAVE CONTROL of your life.

Mum, Dogs Beds and Gratitude

Mum, Dogs Beds and Gratitude

Every Day May Not Be Good, But There Is Good In Every Today I couldn’t be more thankful for the journey I’m on. For this part of my life that I obviously need to go through. Today has been no different, my chronic pain challenging […]

21 Day Self-Love Challenge: Pre-Loved

21 Day Self-Love Challenge: Pre-Loved

Life has a funny way of putting people in your path. I was really excited about the work event I’d booked to go to, I’d been watching the guest speaker on Facebook for months and couldn’t believe I was going to get to meet her. […]

Gratitude Journal: 5 Things I’m Grateful For This Month

Gratitude Journal: 5 Things I’m Grateful For This Month

I became a whole new person yesterday, and I never want to forget how or why I needed that change as much as I did. I never want to forget the forget the pain I went through to get mew to where I am today. So I’m re-booting the blog. Giving it, much like my life a whole new, realigned purpose. I’m starting as only seems right, with things I’m grateful for. All to often we forget where we’ve come from, the pain we’ve endured, the obstacles we’ve overcome and NEVER given ourselves enough credit for the strength it took to do so.

5 Things I’m Grateful For Sept’17

1. I’m thankful for my incredible partner, whom for the most part (I’m sorry to say) I forget about the incredible getting on 12 years that we’ve shared. I can only apologise that I don’t thank you enough for everything you’ve endured because of me and my choices. That I havn’t always been as thankful for your role in my life as I should have and that i forgot just how lucky I am to have had you by my side all these years. I forget far to often just how lucky I am to have found a partner that has loved my so fully and supported as wholeheartedly as you have.

2. I’m thankful for my chronic pain. I thankful to have something I’m life to constantly reminded me just how short my life of this planet is. As hard as you have pushed me, i can honestly say that I am thankful for the way you brought my entire life to a standstill. Without you I would have been forever miserable, working a 40 hr/ week jobs I’d end up hating but having no other choice but to do because “the bills need paying”. Without you I would have died sad and lonely and filled to brim with regret.

3. I’m thankful, as every mummy is, for my son. My dear boy, you brought more meaning to my life than I could have ever imagined. If not for you and your unconditional love I would never had made the changes to better myself as a human being that I am making today. Because of you, and my burning need to be the best mum I possible can. That you understand how to deal with your emotions, you know tears of the true acknowledgement of strength and that the term “man up” will never be a phrase in our family dictionary.

“Now more than ever I know you have a plan for me and I am 100% yours”

4. I’m thankful to my mum, who’s pain you shared with me growing up made me one of the strongest people I know. Who’s clumsy way of fighting through life has meant I know how to live mine with 100% drive and purpose. You were never the perfect mum, as il never be for my son but you did your best and for that I am grateful. Never did you allow the world to confine your girls to a box, never did you give up fighting when I know you had no fight left in you. Please never feel like you failed us, because if not for you I wouldn’t be as successful as I am today. Be proud of you mumma, you fucking rocked being a mum.

5. I’m thankful for the path the universe has planned out for me. I don’t know what journey you are going to take on. I don’t know what pain you will inflict on me next but I do no. That I will survive it. I’m grateful for the lessons you have taught me, the people you have put on my path and the future you have ready waiting for me because I trust you. Now more than ever I know you have a plan for me and I am 100% yours.

I wanted to put this on the blog so that the internet can suck it up into it’s web forever, so that I may never forget the lessons I’ve learnt. That on a bad day I can remember that from pain only goodness comes, only new lessons are learnt and that after learning what ever lessons I’m supposed to learn I will be rewarded.

8 Reasons I’m Thankful For My Chronic Condition

8 Reasons I’m Thankful For My Chronic Condition

I realise this title seems completely backward. Until lately, I’ve spent nearly every day of my life since being diagnosed cursing my chronic condition.  Cursing the pain my IIH (Idiopathic Intracranial Hypertension) gave me. Wondering why me? and wishing it selfishly could have happened to […]

April Poundland Haul

April Poundland Haul

Welcome to my first ever haul post, inspired by Emma Drew who just recently did a Poundland Haul Video, I just had to go and figured I’d share my goodies with you. I only got a few bits but I couldn’t help but share! I […]

Watch Your Child Develop with Wonder Weeks

Watch Your Child Develop with Wonder Weeks

 

I was reminded of this wonderful app recently by a friend, which was originally recommended by my health visitor when Logan was just a few months old and my god am I glad she did. There were times when I couldn’t figure out for the life of me why my little boy was reverting back to a newborn some nights. I’d find myself looking back through the day to what might have caused it and coming up blank. Until I started using this app. Waking up every few hours for around a week or some was much less painful when I knew and how to cope with it better. the Wonder Weeks provides an extensive amount of information on the developments your little one is going through. So how does it work?
 
 

 

Grab the app for just £1.99 from both Apple and Android stores and fill in just a few details. It’s important that you enter your Little ones due date and not their birth date because of their ability to learn really kicks in after they are fully developed. Add a cute Picture, Name, and Gender of your kid (so you can tell their accounts apart later). The app allows you more than one profile so can track all your kids. Hit save and you’re done! 


The app will straight away let you know what’s going on with your little one. What leap (stage of development) they are in and how far they are from the next one. It will go on to explain how the leap has affected your baby, the things they have learned and how they are using these new skills in everyday life. 

The “Legend” will give you a brief indication of what kind of mood you can expect your baby to be in. They can usually seem a bit fussier or clingy during leaps and need extra cuddles from mummy’s and daddy’s, suddenly learning a whole new load of information can be quite daunting. 

An easy to understand chart shows you when you can expect a leap to occur (viewable by baby’s age or date) 


As well as a wealth of information about apps, the concept behind the app and an audiobook version of the book the app is based on. It really is worth every pennie! There is so much more I could say about this app but I honestly think it better to go and explore it yourself.

 

Self-Care For The Chronically Ill

Self-Care For The Chronically Ill

I would just like to start by saying how honored I am to be collaborating with ‘My Survival Collective’, it’s a brilliant blog to support others with chronically illnesses & I hope this post does it justice! I write a lot about loving yourself & […]