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21 Day Self-Love Challenge: Seeing Ghosts

21 Day Self-Love Challenge: Seeing Ghosts

To really understand start by reading this: News Article I dreamt about craig last night, for probably the 3rd time since he died. It makes my heart ache to see him again, holding onto the image of him in my dream for a long as […]

21 Day Self-Love Challenge: Positivity. Period

21 Day Self-Love Challenge: Positivity. Period

Im going to be really real with you here. It’s hard to control emotions, already being controlled by your body. Man, periods suck. I’ve been an absolute nightmare the past couple of days, despite ever effort to change my mood, I jump right back around […]

Mum, Dogs Beds and Gratitude

Mum, Dogs Beds and Gratitude

Every Day May Not Be Good, But There Is Good In Every

Today I couldn’t be more thankful for the journey I’m on. For this part of my life that I obviously need to go through. Today has been no different, my chronic pain challenging me as usual, causing me a shorter temper than I would like. Despite my prep-work this morning, filling my mirror with the affirmations we’re challenged to speak out loud ever morning. My pain makes it a more difficult day than most. My poor son has no idea why mum seems a bit more snappy than usual, showing me his beautiful voice as he does and wondering why mummy isn’t enjoying as much as she usually does.

Most recently he finds it hilarious to repeat “Dad” back to me when ever I’m trying to get him to say mum. Knowing full well what he’s supposed to say. Until this evening, when my head was about ready to explode from stress and he chose that very moment call my name. He called me mum and my heart melted. A weight lifted and my shining star reminded me of what is important.

With my new mum status I took the dog for a walk, already feeling on top of the world. To bump into a lady we’ve come to know well during the times we spend walking the dog. From our first meeting I felt the instantly connected with her, her love for animals as strong as my own and emotions as raw. She’s always treated Zues (our staffy pup) so kindly, giving us toys for him and in return he plucked up her much loved flower bed. For which we felt sufficiently mortified and returned apologies with flowers. This even, we got chatting. Our connection flowed as strong as ever, I only need mention that Zeus was in need of a bigger bed and she jumped at chance to give us a second hand one she had lying around.

My family grow tired of hearing my belief in the journey and yet my faith remains stronger than ever. Having spent all day sharing my knowledge of blogging with those that needed it, on a day when my pain challenges me more than usual. Life sore fit to return to me some things it knew I needed. It works in funny ways, but I’ve never been so grateful for a second hand dog bed.

21 Day Self-Love Challenge: Pre-Loved

21 Day Self-Love Challenge: Pre-Loved

Life has a funny way of putting people in your path. I was really excited about the work event I’d booked to go to, I’d been watching the guest speaker on Facebook for months and couldn’t believe I was going to get to meet her. […]

Gratitude Journal: 5 Things I’m Grateful For This Month

Gratitude Journal: 5 Things I’m Grateful For This Month

I became a whole new person yesterday, and I never want to forget how or why I needed that change as much as I did. I never want to forget the forget the pain I went through to get mew to where I am today. […]

8 Reasons I’m Thankful For My Chronic Condition

8 Reasons I’m Thankful For My Chronic Condition

I realise this title seems completely backward. Until lately, I’ve spent nearly every day of my life since being diagnosed cursing my chronic condition.  Cursing the pain my IIH (Idiopathic Intracranial Hypertension) gave me. Wondering why me? and wishing it selfishly could have happened to someone else. Until recently…Recently I have become thankful for the many things chronic condition has given me. As I think about how my future is panning out I find myself being thankful for many things;

 

Thank you to my Chronic Condition

 

#1 Thank you to my chronic condition, for forcing me to slow down in life. I realise now how I was wishing away my time because I kept running into situations that I couldn’t deal with and instead of facing them head on and learning from them I dove into work and pretended I could skip by it.

 

#2 Thank you for making me appreciate the small things I was ignorant to in the past. Seeing the joy in having the energy to taking that shower without having to sit on the shower floor.

 

#3 Thank you for making more conscious of what goes into my body, for making my cut down on things that were causing me hard like smoking and drinking caffeine. Now more than ever I am thankful that these aren’t habits I will pass on to my future children.

Dear Chronic Condition | Bettering Myself Quote - MySurvivalCollective

#4 Thank you for snapping me out of society “norms”. Regardless of what society thinks, it’s my life and if I’m not happy doing it, I should not be doing it. Why should I live out my life, trying to help someone else reach their dreams?

 

#5 Thank you for allowing me the time to find myself, to be creative and let my true self, show on the both the inside and out. While bright blue hair is a pain in the ass to keep up with sometimes, It’s been so nice to let my true personality shine through.

 

#6 Thank you for allowing me to meet so many inspiration people, I am sure that they will go on to inspire me to do some incredible things in the future. I am looking forward to seeing how those relationships will grow in the future.

#7 Thank you for allowing the chance to look into new opportunities in my life. While sometimes I still feel like a lost lamb, I know now it’s OKAY to feel lost. I still have plenty of time to figure out where my life is going and shouldn’t feel pressured by anyone or anything to pick something early just because.

 
Finally…Thank you for making me who I am today. While sometimes you made me feel completely broken, to a point I never thought I would never repair again. You inflicted pain that I never thought  I could make it through. You turned my thoughts against me, so I would believe I was weak and a waste of life. Many times to the point I feared being around people, in case they unintentionally (or intentionally) inflicted additional pain on me physically or mentally. To this day, you still deal me pain. But that pain now serves as a reminder of how much stronger I have become. Like every other challenge in my life, I defeated you and come out the other side stronger than every.

 

April Poundland Haul

April Poundland Haul

Welcome to my first ever haul post, inspired by Emma Drew who just recently did a Poundland Haul Video, I just had to go and figured I’d share my goodies with you. I only got a few bits but I couldn’t help but share! I […]

Watch Your Child Develop with Wonder Weeks

Watch Your Child Develop with Wonder Weeks

  I was reminded of this wonderful app recently by a friend, which was originally recommended by my health visitor when Logan was just a few months old and my god am I glad she did. There were times when I couldn’t figure out for […]

Self-Care For The Chronically Ill

Self-Care For The Chronically Ill

I would just like to start by saying how honored I am to be collaborating with ‘My Survival Collective’, it’s a brilliant blog to support others with chronically illnesses & I hope this post does it justice! I write a lot about loving yourself & having confidence, which I understand can be a difficult thing if you live with a chronic illness which makes it hard for you to get out of bed some days, so I thought this would be a brilliant opportunity to share so really simple things you can do to help you along the way to self-care! Obviously, all illnesses are different & the things that you are capable of may vary.

    • Yoga in bed – find tutorial videos on YouTube.
    • Meditation – can’t do yoga.. why not meditate & relax the mind instead.
    • Eat healthily – filling yourself with junk food can make you feel ‘bluh’, by eating healthy foods your body feels good & you feel good about yourself & you’ll prevent any unnecessary weight whilst you’re bed bound.
    • Make your bed beautiful – fresh linen, scatter cushions, throws/blankets, even teddies!
    • Wear satin PJ’s – helps to prevent bed sores.
    • Decorate your bedroom – make it a relaxing space & somewhere you want to spend time.
    • Take a bath/shower – if you can’t manage this, spruce yourself up with some dry shampoo & baby wipes.
    • Listen to happy music – sing your heart out!
    • Watch a film or documentary.
    • Connect with a positive online community you may feel alone, but you’re not, there is 100’s of people that are in a similar situation.
    • Take up a hobby – knitting, scrapbooking, colouring/drawing, painting, puzzles
    • Make a ‘Done’ list, instead of a ‘To Do’ list – you’ll be able to look back at the list & rather dwelling on the things you haven’t done, you’ll focus on what you have done.
    • Make a gratitude list – remind yourself there is more to life.
    • Write a poem
    • Read books – self-development books would be amazing for keeping your mindset on track.
    • Ask your local library if they have a home delivery service.
    • Keep a journal about your journey – look back through & see how far you have come.
    • Paint your nails – give yourself a mini manicure.
    • Use a face mask to make yourself feel fresh!
    • Decorate yourself with henna.
    • Write down your negative thoughts – get them out of your head so you stop thinking about them, make sure you get rid of the paper after too! NO ONE NEEDS NEGATIVITY IN THEIR LIVES!
    • Look up at the stars – take a minute to collect your thoughts.
    • Make a ‘Happy Box’ fill it with happy memories, motivational quotes, achievements etc…
    • Ask for help – NEVER feel like you shouldn’t have to ask for help, it is okay to need help on some occasions, don’t put yourself down by not asking for help.

If you’d like to read more about learning to love yourself & building your confidence go to www.wenndy-loveyourself.com

Thank-you for this incredible opportunity to collaborate with you ‘My Survival Collective’, I hope we can do it again soon!

Love

Wenndy

XOXO

Must Have Blogging Apps (Apple Friendly)

Must Have Blogging Apps (Apple Friendly)

Whether you love writing on the go or you’re a busy mummy like myself, I LOVE being able to write and style my blog on the go with my iPad (most of these are android friendly too) and I feel it’s only right that I […]